Life has a way of showing us the path we need to take, I like to call it the silver linings. The things that I wouldn’t have done, experienced or had if this drama, disaster or curve ball hadn’t occurred. And I like to think I’m quite good at finding silver linings… well let’s just say I’m experienced at it!
The problem is, to have a silver lining you also have to have a storm cloud. You have to take the crappy stuff to find the good stuff. Some people call it fate, or serendipity. Some people have a deeper faith and they feel it’s the hand of god steering them. Whatever or whoever it is, things happen in life. All the time.
And this year has been no different. Between natural disasters, the pandemic and now the looming recession and financial crisis. There have been a lot of storm clouds.
So I want to ask you now, have you discovered your silver lining yet?
Many of my coaching clients and the women I’m talking to, have found this year has provided an opportunity to recognise that they want something more from life. While this may have been a dormant feeling last year, between lock downs, home schooling and canceled plans, there has been more opportunities to feel that something just isn’t quite right.
If you think you might be in this space, then it is also important to recognise the signs. It’s important to know the signs that life is wanting you to do something different. So today I am sharing the 5 most common signs that you simply cannot afford to ignore any longer.
- Wondering if there is more
So many of us spend our nights laying awake pondering, is this all there is? Surely there’s more to life than this? There is this constant nagging feeling that not everything is 100% satisfactory in life.
If this is you, then stop wondering and start articulating what’s showing up for you. Start a journal – write down what’s playing on your mind. Then write down three actions you can take towards achieving this or making it happen.
- Feeling resentful
Oh dear. Hands up ladies, if this is you.
You give everything to your family. All your time and energy goes into ensuring they have everything they need. You are constantly trying to meet all their random wants. At the end of the day, you just want to loose your sh*t and scream, “but what about me?”
We’ve all been there. I had a moment last night where I lost it! We all do it.
But we are also our own worse enemies. No one is going to give us more time and energy. No one is going to read our minds that we’ve had enough. No one is going to hear our soul begging for more in our lives. We have to make it happen for ourselves!
How? Allocate out the chores. Don’t say “yes” to every random demand. Ask for help when you need it, you don’t have to be a martyr.
And… carve out a little moment for yourself, take that magazine and sit in the sunshine by yourself for 10 minutes, go for a quick walk around the block. You will feel so much better for it. Don’t let it get to a screaming like a lunatic moment like I did!
- Constantly questioning yourself
You are amazing. You have brilliant skills. Your strengths are what makes you special. Remind yourself of this every day.
By the time we have the household sorted each day, and complete all of our errands, we are tired and that’s when these thoughts start creeping in. Don’t let those two pillars draw you back – guilt and doubt. Stand up tall and recognise who you are and what you have to offer.
It’s not always easy. But start by making a list of your skills and strengths. Highlight the ones that are important to you, the ones that will help you achieve your goal. Write down how you will use your skills and strengths. How will you put them into action.
Just the mere fact you put pen to paper will help you regain clarity.
- Struggling to get clear on your goals
Whether you want to learn a new skill. Start volunteering. Return to part time work. Get that promotion. Show up more for your family. No matter what your big why is, you need to break it down into little steps so you don’t get lost.
Write down what your big why is. What is important to you, that you want to achieve. Then identify the smaller actions that you can take now to start working towards your big goals.
Make sure these are really clear, then put them in your diary. Carve out an hour or two each week to work on it. Make it a priority for that hour, and don’t give that time away.
Once you start you will gain momentum and everything gets easier once the momentum starts!
- Wondering if you’ve left it all too late
You can’t teach an old dog new tricks… or can you? Frankly does it really matter? It is never too late to have a goal, to have a dream.
But why wait any longer? Start now.
Take on board each of the steps outlined above:
- Write down your big why
- Identify the actions you can take
- Get clear on the skills and strengths you have and how you will use them
- Carve out an hour or two each week that is your time, make it sacred and commit to it for yourself. Write it in your diary!
- Start a journal. Don’t overthink it, just make a regular habit perhaps every sunday night, write down the things that are on your mind and what you can do about it
- Set boundaries, for your family and for yourself. Don’t let it get to a screaming meltdown!
If you are wondering how you could have more in your life, download my free Roadmap: The Essential Path to Having More In Your Life and start working through the activities. I have broken it down into the simple steps you can start taking today to help you on this journey.