We all know that no matter how well we plan, no matter the contingencies we have in place, it doesn’t take very much to derail life, let alone a global pandemic like COVID-19.
So how do we keep on track? How do we maintain a positive flow? Even when it all goes to crap…
Firstly and frankly, we can’t control the external world. We can’t control our kids. We can’t control what our husbands do. The key has to be in ourselves:
- Ensuring we get enough sleep (a lot of that means we need to turn our devices off a lot earlier in the evening)
- Ensuring we eat well, consistently!
- Ensuring we get enough exercise, and if possible fresh air and sunshine
- Ensuring we stay in check with our own emotional state, and recognising when things are on edge and doing something about it
Secondly, in those moments when it does all go to crap
- Take a deep breath and give yourself a moment to get perspective
- If you can get outside, sun and exercise will always help
- Phone a friend, you need to share the load with someone, if the timezone is wrong leave a voice message. Sometimes just verbalising it will help.
- Ask for help, these are unique times and you do not need to do everything yourself. I bet your kids are capable of doing a lot more than you’re asking at the moment.
Thirdly, while we can’t control the others in our lives, there are somethings we can do to support our kids:
- Ensure they get enough sleep, this may mean starting quiet time/ story time a fraction earlier so they are ready for sleep when they go to bed. In our recent move I started using mindfulness with the girls at bed time – this has been a game changer!
- For the little ones, help them to understand their own emotions. Help them by giving them the words they need to express how they feel. This may apply to some of the older kids too 🙂
- Provide plenty of opportunities to expend energy… especially if you’re in a lock down, you need to think completely differently about how the kids will expend that energy.
- Ensure they eat a balanced diet. Plan your meals at the start of the week so you’re not left guessing at the end of the day.
- Be there for them. Listen to them. Don’t try to fix everything, just be there.
Fourthly, here’s some ideas that may help hubby:
- Give him time/space when he is switching from work mode to home mode. Try not to start with your thoughts, comments and questions as soon as he finishes work.
- Ensure he is exercising (if not, encourage him to start, again you may have to be creative here if you’re in lockdown).
- Help him to make good food decisions by having dinner done (even if he has to reheat it).
- Encourage him to switch his device off! This is tricky I know, and still a constant battle (I mean discussion) in our home!?!
- Plan family centric activities that you know everyone will enjoy – a family movie afternoon at home with all the trimmings; build a fort the whole family can fit in; a family dance party in the lounge or go all out and do kareoke in the lounge room!
No matter where you are in the world, COVID-19 is changing the landscape and the way we live. So please, stay safe and stay calm.
If you need someone to talk to, I am here for you. I am offering all my readers a FREE 30 minute online discussion to support you in any way I can during this crazy time. You can book your session at a time that is convenient for you, here.
In addition, I am offering a four week mini programme “Living Well in Times of Change” to support you through this period of change. You can get more information on the mini programme and sign up here, numbers are strictly limited. Starting Monday 30 March, this programme is all on line, allowing you to join from the comfort of your own home (no matter where you are in the world). It’s not to late to join up if you’re interested, our first call is later in the week 🙂